Helping Children Recover

Children are more likely than adults to be emotionally traumatized by a disaster. Parents, teachers, and caregivers can help prevent serious psychological consequences by observing, listening, and talking to children.

Look for signs of distress.

Young children

Children who are preschool-age and younger may not have words to describe their experiences, but that does not mean they are unaware of the circumstances around them. Common signs of distress include:

  • Crying more than usual
  • Increased irritability
  • Changes in eating habits
  • Stomachaches and headaches
  • Fear of the dark
  • Bad dreams
  • Regressing to immature behaviors like bed-wetting and thumb-sucking

Some children may become noisy and hyperactive. Others may become shy and cling to parents.

School-age children

Young children age six to 11 years are better able to understand the consequences of a disaster. This age group may be able to express sadness, anger, and grief over losses. Some may fear that another disaster will occur or become so preoccupied by thoughts of the disaster they have difficulty concentrating on schoolwork. A sudden drop in grades could indicate distress. Some may irrationally believe they were the cause of the disaster, damage, or loss. Children in this age group may or may not be able to verbalize their thoughts.

If children/adolescents have difficulty talking about their experiences, encourage them to draw pictures, tell stories, or play make-believe games. It will help them express their feelings and give adults an understanding of what they are experiencing.

Like younger children, school-age children might experience physical symptoms, nightmares, and/or revert to more immature behaviors.


Adolescents commonly experience intense emotions. Following a disaster, they may feel overwhelmed but be unable to talk about their feelings.

The adolescent years are normally a time when teenagers are interested in moving out into the world. Disasters can change an adolescent’s natural inclination, making the world seem dangerous and frightening. Instead of wanting to socialize, some adolescents may become afraid to leave home.

Others who feel they have lost control over their lives may begin to experiment with high-risk behaviors like:

  • Alcohol use/abuse
  • Drug use
  • Sexual activity
  • Reckless driving
  • Suicide ideation

Make time to listen

  • Give children/adolescents opportunities to talk. Some children, particularly teenagers, may be reluctant to talk. Try getting them to open up while you are engaged in activities like chores, driving, or recreation.
  • Give children/adolescents permission to feel and express their emotions. There is no such thing as a bad or wrong emotion. During times of disaster, it’s normal to feel sad, angry, and afraid.

Talk to children during disasters

  • Tell children the truth about a disaster, but make sure the information you tell them is factual and age-appropriate.
  • Reassure children that adults are doing everything possible to keep families safe. Explain what emergency responders and relief workers are doing to help. Putting the focus on good deeds rather than the disaster will help create positive outlooks.
  • Talk to children about your family’s faith traditions. Spiritual beliefs and practices can increase wellbeing during times of crisis.

Other actions that will help children cope

  • Keep daily routines intact as much as possible. Routines will offer a sense of stability in times of uncertainty.
  • Practice your emergency plan. If you do not have one, now is a good time to start one. Talk with all members of the family about a plan, and give each member a responsibility.
  • Limit children’s exposure to violent media such as video games, TV programs, and even news reports about the disaster.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself. It will help you take good care of your children. And be conscious of how you react in a crisis. Children/adolescents will be looking to you for clues on how they should react and cope. If you, or your child, are experiencing trauma or high levels of distress, seek crisis counseling. Early intervention can help prevent bigger problems in the future. To find out about crisis counseling services in your area, contact the nearest Local Mental Health Authority .